BOOBS | MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BREASTS

Growing up I never wanted boobs. I mean sometimes I wanted them, but because I’d been dancing from the age of 6, boobs were not something I coveted. My dream was to be a ballerina, unfortunately as puberty hit, I realized I just didn’t have the body type. I still remember when I started to develop breasts, how uncomfortable I was in my leotards. Today’s post I share with you my relationship with my breasts. This blog post is in partnership with Upbra. I want to thank Upbra for inspiring this post and I hope the topic of breasts and the female body becomes an open discussion. 

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HALF THE POPULATION HAS BOOBS

As I got older and noticed boys more, I started to like my boobs. They made my outfits look good. I also realized how every woman has something to say about their breasts. They're too big, too small, uneven, not round enough, sagging, the list goes on.

My mom never really talked about female development with me growing up, but I clearly remember going to buy my first real bra and my mom telling me I was a 34B. Looking back, I realize she told me this because she was a 34B. Mom had some weird logic.

THE WRONG SIZE

So you can image without ever having someone measure me properly, I just bought 34B bra sizes from 15 to 28. They always felt a little off. That’s because I finally walked into a store and had myself measured properly and found out I was a 32D! I didn’t believe the woman when she told me and refused to buy the right size. This went on for another few years before I finally bought my size bra and realized how much more comfortable and flattering it was.

BOOBS FREAK ME OUT

For whatever reason I was embarrassed at how big my boobs were/are. When you look at me you don’t necessarily think I have big boobs probably because I’m rather small everywhere else. I was freaked out because growing up I never wanted them. There was also this idea in my mind that I didn’t have them, it’s weird how ideas can be projected onto you.

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ENJOY THEM WHILE YOU GOT THEM

Now that I’ve come to terms with my breasts, I’m happy. I know how to shop for the right bra and I also know how to dress for them better. Big, small, uneven, there’s no shame in them. They are natural. Upbra makes easy to size bras that help accentuate your assets. SHOP UPBRA HERE.

WHAT IS UPBRA?

Upbra® bra is the world's first fully adjustable cleavage lift up bra. You can feel and see it lift right before your eyes. You control your cleavage. Just pull the magic cleavage control straps and the Upbra bra lifts you up from UNDERNEATH and AROUND the sides of your breasts.

Upbra provides cleavage for small breasts and lifts for large breasts. Because the bra is fully adjustable, this is perfect for any size discrepancies as well. Many women deal with uneven breast sizes and Upbra can even them out under your clothes.

My Upbra Picks

Strapless Bra When it comes to strapless bras, I struggle hard. Big boobs and strapless bras don’t mix, but the Upbra strapless bra gives me the support and lift I need. The extra grip also helps keep the bra inplace.

Find out how the Upbra system works HERE

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WHAT’S YOUR STORY?

What’s your boob story? I’d love to know if you had any experiences that have stayed with you good or bad. I think it’s important to talk about these things. I know if I ever have a daughter, I’m going to take her to be properly fitted for her bra. I also know I want her to have a healthy mindset of her body image and to love herself and be proud of her body.

 

Xoxo

Serein

This post is sponsored by Upbra. All opinions are 100% my own and honest.

25 Comments

  1. February 23, 2018 / 1:55 am

    Honestly, I don’t like wearing a bra. I’m 34A and there’s really not much lift up or hold up needed when I walk. I don’t wear a bra as much as possible, most times I just use a nipple cover, I find them comfier. But when I wear a bra, I prefer those soft ones without a wire because it kinda hurts. I also agree with you, we should be able to talk about this since a lot of women are not aware of their actual breast sizes especially teenage girls don’t even know where you start.

    xx Alyssa | STYLE VANITY

  2. Zarah
    January 25, 2018 / 10:44 am

    Love this post and the fact that you’re rallying with comfort and confidence in our bodies. I, too, had been wearing the wrong size bra for years cause that’s the size my mom told me I was, 34A. She probably had the wrong size for herself also, now that I think about it. Well I finally got fitted and told I was actually 32B!! What a relief to finally find the right bra size cause after that, I tried all the bras I could find in that size and so many of them fit really well! I rarely wear bras now, though, cause I have this thought in my head that my boobs will always “depend” on them for support. We’ll see. But I did keep all my bras in case I change my mind!!

    • February 12, 2018 / 10:55 am

      Hi Zarah!
      I’m so happy you related to the post and now have the right size! I also go braless a lot, but also wear a bra when I feel I need the shaping and support. I think it’s all about just figuring out what works for us and our lifestyles.
      Thank you so much for sharing your experience and for taking the time to read and comment!
      xoxo
      Serein

  3. Jo Vee (jo_v80)
    January 24, 2018 / 5:30 pm

    Such a great post !!! So glad you did this. I wish I would have read something like this 5 years ago xo

    • February 12, 2018 / 10:56 am

      Thank you so much Jo! Hopefully someone out there who needs this post, finds it 🙂

  4. January 23, 2018 / 11:19 am

    Such a great blog post. It shouldn’t be taboo and it is super important to have the correct bra fit. Thank you.

    • February 12, 2018 / 10:56 am

      Thank you Cherry for reading and commenting!

  5. Mimi
    January 22, 2018 / 10:40 pm

    I was a 32F until I got breastreduction surgery in 2014. It was the best decision I ever made. I always wanted small cute breasts.

    • February 12, 2018 / 10:57 am

      Good for you for doing what would make you comfortable and happy!

  6. January 22, 2018 / 3:44 pm

    Being comfortable in your body is a hard thing, let alone finding the right bra size! I think I’ve been wearing the wrong bra size for years before I went and got myself measured and my cup size was bigger than I thought! Getting fitted and finding the right one is essential!

    Loved the post! ❤️

    • February 12, 2018 / 10:57 am

      It’s so essential! I wish people spoke about this more! Thank you for sharing your experiences as well and taking the time to read the post!

  7. January 22, 2018 / 2:03 pm

    Interesting article! Thanks for sharing your story! Having the right bra size is in fact harder than it looks!
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  8. January 21, 2018 / 10:06 pm

    Wow, getting properly fitted is definitely important. Your old bras were off by about two cup sizes. As weird as this sounds, your post reminded me to get sized as soon as I can. I’m pretty (99.9%) sure I might be wearing the wrong size too.

    • February 12, 2018 / 10:59 am

      Now I’ll get sized almost everytime I shop for new bras just incase I’ve changed! I’ll even try them on and ask the sales associate to check me to make sure I’m not gapping or spilling out in the wrong places. The right bra can make you look and feel so much better!

      xoxo
      Serein

  9. Jody Araque
    January 21, 2018 / 6:22 am

    When I was growing up my sister and cousin would tease me and call me “tit woman” because my breasts were at least a C, now a D cup. I thought I was too big for my age, at that time, 15. Now I like that I have them, but felt uncomfortable at a younger age. I felt like guys and others would stare at them. I was self conscious then. It is crazy how we didn’t like something and now, we do. Many women pay for what we have naturally!

    • February 12, 2018 / 11:00 am

      I’m so happy to hear you’ve come to love what you have! It’s so sad how others can make us feel self conscious about things we have no control over. I bet you your cousins are actually jealous of your boobs.

  10. January 21, 2018 / 2:19 am

    I never gave what having bigger boobs would be like walking on crutches but it really did change how I walked. My bra straps were always too tight when I started wearing one and I would have muscle spasms from where the straps cut into my skin. I never went to pick out my bras until I was 18 yrs old. My mother always went to buy them without even taking me with her. She has really small breast and didn’t understand that my larger breast needed a little extra support. I always had my daughter with me picking out her own bras. I also let her decide when she would start wearing one. She told me before she really needed one but I think it was important to her self esteem for her to wear one then. That was another problem between my mother and I shared. I told her I needed one for 2 yrs before she bought me a training bra. She had to take it back because during the summer between 5th and 6th grades I shot up to a c cup. After my son was born I needed a dd. I’m glad they stopped there. Now I’ve dropped to a d.

    • February 12, 2018 / 11:03 am

      Oh I’m so sorry to hear about your experience, but it has made you so much more understanding for your daughter. Unfortunately this topic just isn’t discussed and sometimes people just don’t get it. It’s important to share. Thank you so much for sharing your story, hopefully another woman out there might read it and be able to relate or know they are not alone.

  11. Yolanda Ferguson
    January 20, 2018 / 11:44 pm

    I’ve always been top heavy. I used to be 48DDD, but then I lost over 150lbs and my boobs dropped to 32C and I cried like a baby! Since then I’ve trying to save a boob job and I still see the “fat girl” in the mirror and I’m trying get away from this. It’s been near 6.5 years since I lost weight and my boobs and I still hate full length mirrors and bra shopping.

    • February 12, 2018 / 11:04 am

      Yolanda! Congratulations on the weight loss and getting healthy! Now it’s all about accepting yourself. You are beautiful and strong! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise including yourself!

  12. Diana
    January 20, 2018 / 10:53 pm

    I never thought i would of been weirded out to read or see an article about boobs. Yet i never realized or thought of thinking or even a
    speaking about it. & got to thinking, psh why not.!? LOL… So i am a plus size person who doesnt have a problem with finding the cup size. The problem is have is the band part that i ALWAYS struggle, ’till this day.. I always have to buy extra extension regardless, especially so those rolls dont pop on the side… and i hate haaaaaate straples because i feel like a got a double booble thing going on near my boob and arpit. Does anyone else have that issue???

    P.s.
    Thanks for opening up. Made us open upa little more if its a tiny bit awkward..

    • February 12, 2018 / 11:06 am

      Hi Diana! Thank you so much for sharing your bra story! This is something I think manufactures really need to hear about! You should not have to buy extenders!

  13. Nicole
    January 20, 2018 / 7:49 pm

    I never wanted boobs either. I developed early and people thought I stuffed. Now that I have them I like them but wish weren’t so big ddd . Wish upbra made bigger sizes

  14. Ashley Turpen
    January 20, 2018 / 7:09 pm

    I can totally relate with wearing the wrong size…literally all of high school and until I was like 19, I was wearing bras that were a cup size too small. Getting fitted is so important and makes everything so much more comfortable!

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