As I am about to write this post featuring my current favorite casual look, wearing a striped button down shirt from Boohoo.com, paired with thrifted cropped denim, stacked heels, and my go to Miu Miu sunglasses, my heart is full and I am warmed by all the comments I received from my last blog post. It was a very scary post for me to write. I shared a lot of the personal struggles from my past and how I am trying to deal with them currently. For the first time I have admitted publicly to being abused and how it’ll be a lifelong healing process. Another topic that has been heavy on my mind and heart lately, has been the social media way of thought, “you are only as valuable as your numbers.” This is such a bullshit idea. Again, obviously for business reasons, numbers do matter. It’s business. Numbers however do not tell you everything. People need to realize the potential of someone and the person behind the numbers. Are those numbers real? Do those numbers translate to loyal readers and viewers? Who is watching? Luckily, I haven’t had to deal with too much of this on the business side. What I have dealt with since day 1 has been the exclusion based on followers from other influencers.
There are obvious social rules when approaching someone online. I do get tons of request for “my secrets” (I don’t have any, just hard work, if you have some, please share) and contacts. Those who have reached out and know me, know that I try to help whenever possible. Unfortunately, for privacy reasons, I cannot give out contacts, I also don’t feel comfortable when someone just pops up out of the blue requesting contacts from me. I’m also more open to those I feel I have gotten to know through time. Let’s face it, we are meeting online. I do always check out a channel, when genuinely asked (not a spam copy and paste “check out my channel”), but a real reach out. I try to respond to every comment possible, it’s getting harder, which saddens me. When it comes to e-mails, I always try to respond as well, but again things are starting to slip through. The other day I was meeting my friend from high-school and we were talking about how we had been texting, but didn’t actually send the text. I keep thinking I responded to people, but never actually did. I’m not sure what’s going on with my brain anymore. I think I need a vacation, which I will hopefully have in JUNE!
Anyways, to keep this somewhat short, I hope that by putting it out there, we are all more aware of how we look at people in social media. I follow and comment on accounts because I am drawn to them and I see the potential. I will never not be your friend or not help if I can because you don’t have “then numbers”. I want to help as many people that I can because I would not be here today, if not for the generosity of those who came before me and offered their advice or help. I want to build a community and I want to start a Facebook Group of bloggers and influences. This should be an inclusive community. Now with that being said, I am awful with Facebook and have no idea where to begin. I am hoping you can offer some insight if you know how to start and run a Facebook Group.
Part of growing up and maturing, is knowing your faults and limitations. The reason this topic is on my mind, is due to how I’ve been letting others affect my thoughts. I’m a strong person, but if you are surrounded by something enough, you will notice a change. It will effect you. The value of social media followings that people were putting on others constantly, was starting to affect how I looked at people and how I felt about myself. The truth is, there will always be someone with more followers, likes, money, fame, opportunities. Someone will always have better photos. Better videos. It’s about how you treat others and how you treat yourself that is important. At the end, none of this will matter. Health, family, love, that’s all that is left at the end of this life.
This outfit is my powers outfit. I’m most comfortable in denim. Comfort above fashion, always, and I’m always a little disheveled. I like how the stipe button down shirt elongates me. The shirt also is comfortable, but put together and a little mussed up. I am not perfect. I do not want to be perfect. Perfect is boring, but I do want to be the best version of myself. I don’t want to judge others. I want to raise up others. I want to inspire and motivate, but most importantly I want to build a welcoming, safe community. Do I want to grow numerically? Well, hell yes! Because as we all know numbers will open up opportunities. I have so much I want to do here and on my channel, but I need help. I need time to learn, to create more. I’d love to be able to support us financially, so that hubs can focus on building this blog, my channel, and managing the business side of things. So yes, growth is a priority, but it will not come before this community we have already built.
I truly thank you for all the support you have show me and what I am trying to do.
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